Many small businesses are struggling through this pandemic because they don’t have the brand awareness that large companies have. When you support small business your not just supporting a dream but your supporting your community and your boosting the economy, and helping create thousands of more jobs. You don’t necessarily need money to support a small business, even if you can’t afford to shop with them it’s take zero dollars and zero cents to support them like you support the brands of celebrities who don’t even know who you are. The larger companies take a hit in the wallet when their sales go down while all the independent businesses might not be able to make it and have to close their business for good.
Asking for myself….
So last week I had a total meltdown. I haven’t had one since my son swung on our 60 inch tv with a bat. You can only imagine the ugly cry I made when it blacked out. I just knew my husband, my then fiancé at time, was going to call off the wedding because I was watching him when it happened. The flat screen is his pride and joy so I expected the worst. Surprisingly, he was cool as a cucumber. He just went out and bought another one and threw out the bat.
Last Sunday, I had the pleasure of attending a wonderful networking event called Bosses Who Brunch. I was able to catch part 2 Plot.Plan. Execute. of this 3 part series. At the event I got to meet some really cool women who are entrepreneurs like myself trying to turn their dreams into reality. I bought my ticket for $25 last minute (2 days before the event) and I’m so glad I just spontaneously made the move to act on it because the energy at the Bosses Who Brunch event hosted by Mariah Darsha was a breath of fresh of air. I was definitely inspired to keep pushing and stick with my online business even amid Covid.
So you’ve found your niche and your ready to take your brand or service to the next level. Your ready to start a legitimate business. You’ve done your research and LLC is the way you want to go to protect your business. A limited liability company makes your business a company. It also limits an owner’s personal liability for business debts and lawsuits and offers flexibility when it comes to ownership, management and taxation of the business.
Since I like to do ratchet shit with classy people the title rachlorette fits my personality. If you know me you already know. I hardly get out but when I do I cut up! That’s a fact. My motto is work hard, play even harder. So Las Vegas was the ideal backdrop for my rachlorette so I could let loose one more time (because it definitely won’t be the last) before I walk down that aisle. Plus, unlike San Diego it’s more open and they don’t have a 10 pm curfew.
Getting married is full of festivities and let me tell you I’ve been heavily indulging in all of it. From having a wild bachelorette party in Las Vegas that I jokingly named my “rachelorette”, to an intimate Bride and Bougie Bridal Shower in my mom’s backyard. I seriously can’t thank my amazing friends for sparing no expense and making sure these moments were absolutely perfect. My I Do Squad definitely out did themselves and I am forever grateful to have them by my side during this stressful but fun time. I look forward to married life and more milestones with the most incredible friends.
The current events are exhausting. We are living through a pandemic and a historical revolution. The fight for change is long over due. If you know your Black history you know that for over 600 years Black people have been oppressed. There has been no equality and every time we try to sustain our own wealth on our own there are massacres like Rosewood and Tulsa’s Black Wall Street street to knock us back down to square one.
Why I can’t breathe.
I’m still waiting for America to be great. It seems like every time we take one step forward we take 3 steps back. Being Black in America is sad and exhausting. I can’t even breathe. We are the only race that will support every other race but we are never protected. All our civil liberties come with conditions. We have to think twice about walking at night with a hoodie on and even taking a normal jog in our neighborhood can be a risk. In 2020, being black af is still a crime. We are still walking targets.
With all the unfortunate things going on in the world today I’m still happy. I choose to focus on the positive. Instead I want to remember how lucky I am. The world is shut down but our love continues on. We’ve faced a lot of adversity in our relationship who would have thought the Coronavirus would be another one of them.
This year due to social distancing we will have to appreciate the moms in our lives from the comforts of our homes.
Every mother deserves to be spoiled and since the world hasn’t opened up yet I’ve been doing a lot of online shopping. While shopping online for my favorite moms I found some really cool gifts that I thought I’d share in case you still have no clue what to get this year. Here are some ideas.
Vaccinations are medicines that prevent serious diseases, such as, measles, whooping cough, and polio. Vaccines work by teaching the body to fight specific diseases. It’s important to vaccinate babies and young children because they can’t fight these diseases on their own. The Covid 19 pandemic is an example of what can happen in the world without one vaccine.
Yeah, the CoronaVirus is rocking the world but don’t let anything outside of you stop you from starting your business even if you only have $100. Don’t over think it to much. Just do it. Do your research. Make sure your not getting scammed. Make sure your vendors are reliable. Do what you can with what you have. Go ahead and start that business,sis.
Don’t be misunderstood again. Learn tips to improve your communication and your relationships with friends, family and co workers. Better communication helps problem solve conflict so there’s less fighting and more time for enjoying the now especially during this pandemic where we are spending even more time with our significant others just chilling in the house.
Hi, moms. I think we can all agree that motherhood is the hardest hood and one of the most difficult part in raising kids is disciplining them. We love our kids but not when they act up. I don’t know about y’all but this quarantine was just what I needed to tighten up my little gang or should I say gang gang gang since there’s 3 of them. My kids are ages 1-14 and I discipline them without spanking them. If your looking for an alternative way to discipline that doesn’t include spanking your kid keep reading.
If your one of the non-Essential workers and are not clocking in to your 9-5 these days quarantine and read a book. In my free time I’ve replaced music with audiobooks and it has changed my life. I’ve always loved to read. I was raised by a reader. My mom has worked at the library for as long as I can remember. She always brought home books that were no longer in circulation and sparked my interest in reading.
Don’t be afraid to walk alone. Goals are personal. Stay on track and don’t let your 2020 goals be your 2021 goals. This is exactly what I had to tell myself this week because the CoronaVirus was messing up my rhythm. I felt like I finally had the time to research eye lash vendors in China. I found one that I love that’s affordable and has good quality mink lashes I would actually wear and now I’m fucking scared that they might deliver me some CoronaVirus. The irony.
I’ve been breastfeeding 18 months now and I either get props from supporters or the biggest stink eye from those that think that’s to old. The biggest misconception about breast feeding is that once your kid has teeth you should stop, and if your child is walking and talking and your still breastfeeding then comes the big cloud of judgement. People think somethings wrong with momma for her to be going so long like it’s a problem. There’s nothing wrong with me I’m just trying to feed my kid.
As a new mom trying to figure out what you need on your baby registry is tough because there’s so many products to choose from. What will baby actually need? That’s a good question. Every year someone comes up with some genius idea to improve an existing baby product or a idea for simplifying, organizing or keeping baby entertained that you just must have. Some of them will make life easier, while others leave you feeling like you just wasted your money because your baby doesn’t even like it but it’s cute as hell and you had to have it.
There are so many baby gadgets and products to choose from at all price points. As a mom-to-be you can look all over the internet and find thousands of shopping list but you won’t find one like mine that will give you the honest truth of what’s a necessity (we’ve all fallen for a gimmick or two) and what you might just want because it’s nice to have. Here’s my baby list that’s practical, trendy and will tell you where to splurge if money is no object.
Stop Hoarding Toilet Paper And Come Up With A Family Emergency Plan. Be Prepared For Any Unplanned Crisis Not Just The CoronaVirus.
With all this CoronaVirus pandemic madness going on I hope we all take away from this whole mess that we should always have a family emergency plan. The most useful resource my job actually gave me was to think about having a plan. In our case right now we must focus on staying safe and staying healthy so that we don’t spread the virus anymore because it may be just like the flu for some of us but for our older population it’s more fatal and can cause death. Those aged 60 and older are most at risk.
If your a fashionista who had her heart set on dressing up her daughter (it’s ok to have a preference) but recently found out your having a boy don’t be down you can still have fun dressing up your little boy. I promise. Dressing boys can be fun. Why let all the girl moms have all the fun.
I feel like with girls they are so catered to. There’s 50 million stores and websites catering to little princesses while with boys it pretty slim pickings. You have to try a little harder and search a little longer to find the right piece to put together a cute outfit but it can be done.
If you been following my blog you know that I’ve been on my Dave Ramsey ish for a while now. I’ve been really making a conscious effort to gain financial freedom and saving has been a big part of my journey. It’s helped me get out of debt and invest into myself. It’s given me more freedom and security, both of which I’m obsessed with. The piece of mind in knowing I now have options has relieved a lot of the stress in my life I used to have.
Money is important. It affects everything in our lives.
Money effects your attitude, your family, your marriage, where we live, who you associate with, and what you can do with your free time. The more I learn about money the more I get to help YOU. I’m forever trying to learn and grow. It’s a bonus that I get to help y’all out so together we can live our best lives because having freedom and options is much more fun then stressing over the affects of not having enough money.
Cards and candy are a given and are expected on Valentine’s Day. Let’s kick it up a notch this year and buy gifts for Valentines that have sentimental value and will be used all year around (I absolutely love gifts that are not basic and I can use pretty regularly) or do activities with your loved ones that create memories that last a life time.
Valentine’s isn’t just another day. Every year I hear people say it’s just another day because they celebrate Valentines everyday-I call bullshit. In my house it can’t be done. We’re to busy with work, life and everything in between that we have to pencil quality time in. Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays we always celebrate to make sure we let our loved ones know they are loved and appreciated, by making the day or weekend of special. That way there’s no doubt the love we have for them.
On October 25th, I married the love of my life. We exchanged vows at Cuvier Park as known as the wedding bowl in La Jolla, CA. Immediately after the ceremony we had our reception at The Cuvier Club about 2 blocks away. The decor, the dress, the venue-everything came together perfectly. I’m just so grateful for my pandemic wedding day to have gone exactly how I imagined the most perfect wedding day in my head. Even with the few hiccups everything was perfect. The both of us had the time of our lives which is the most important detail when planning a wedding.
I was going to post this for TMI Tuesday but my phone was tripping. A day late but here it is. I’m not sure why no one is talking about bladder incontinence during pregnancy and after childbirth and how doing kegal excersizes can help prevent the occurrence but lucky my friends you have me. Let’s talk about what we only usually talk about in our inner circle.
Self-love is the best love. If you don’t have a pamper routine I suggest you get one. As a busy mom with aspirations it’s important to pencil in self care. Treat yourself. You need to take care of your mental and physical self in order to thrive in motherhood and your career. A little “me time” is necessary. You need to create chill relaxing pamper days to balance the busy chaotic ones or else take it from me, you’ll go loco in la cabeza.
We’re 23 days into the new year. We already made up our mind that this year we’re going to be intentional with our goal setting. Now that we’re going to be laser focused on our dreams it’s time to discipline ourselves and give up a few things to make our dreams possible. It’s not going to be easy but in 2020 we’re claiming success.
The legend, Kobe Bryant, his daughter and 7 others died today in a very horrible tragic helicopter crash in Calabasas. I can’t believe it. This is so shocking and so sad. We’re just starting 2020 and then here go this bullshit.
I don’t care how much of a diva you consider yourself if your baby daddy is not holding up his weight put him on child support, sis. Stop getting sad and stressing out about what he’s not doing and let the courts deal with him. I’m a huge advocate in trying to come to a mutual agreement outside of court but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Don’t feel ashamed about it either. I applaud women who take care of their business for their child when the dad doesn’t want to step up.
The millennial mom is running businesses, working and raising kids. She is a strong professional women holding down her family while trying to get paid. I am sis. Sis is me. In fact, it’s starting to even be more common for us hustling women to now be the bread winners of our families. We are moms but we have elevated our mindsets. We want the whole nine yards-financial stability, wealth and good health. The roles have definitely reversed in the 21st century and we aren’t complaining. What can I say the millennial mom is poppin’!
I’m claiming everything this year. 2020 will be MY year. Periodt! Whose with me? Whose not letting their goals go unfinished? A new decade is on the horizon and it’s time for our dreams to come true. That business? Start it. That toxic relationship? Let it go. That higher education you always wanted? Go for it. That dream vacation? Take it. That mentorship? You can never know enough so reach out and make those valuable connections. That “no” you received? Go harder. This year it’s time to be fearless in the pursuit of happiness.
Do you boo.
We’ve been in survival mode way to long. It’s time we start living! We’re not ok anymore with just progressing this year, we’re ready to celebrate our accomplishments. I know I plan on working a lot so I can do more celebrating, even the small victories because those are crucial to your overall success too. Every boss move I make I’m popping champagne for all the pain I experienced in my loosing season.
A lot of men and women didn’t get the experience of having a wonderful father. It’s time to break that generational curse and change that. Dear fathers, promise your unborn children that as a man you’ll step up and be the loving father they deserve no matter what circumstances surrounded them coming into this world. Once you have a child it’s no longer about you. It becomes all about your little ones happiness. No excuses.
I’m only discussing you men because the saying mommas baby, daddy’s maybe is pure facts. I know plenty of single moms and countless kids whose fathers are not in the picture like they should be for many reasons, but at the end of the day there’s no excuse that will validate any father not being in his kids life. How could you not take one look at your kid and not want to make better choices?
Are you a busy mom who focuses entirely on your families wants and needs? I get it I’m the same way. I just recently learned how important it is to keep yourself up after childbirth. Please mommy, don’t forget about YOU. Do something for yourself. You deserve a spa day to get your groove back. You deserve a spa day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs because taking the time to relax and unwind is good for your health, and will make you a better mom, wife, co worker and friend.
This Saturday, I hosted an unforgettable Friendsgiving for my mom friends at Louisiana Purchase. It was a magical night in San Diego with tons of inspiring stories, lots of laughs, impeccable food, drinks, beautiful ambiance and a chance for all of us to make a difference and give back. Instead of doing your typical potluck for Friendsgiving I thought it’d be fun to switch it up and get my boss lady friends out the house for a ladies night at a hip restaurant and do some charity work.
We are so blessed throughout the year it feels good to give back to the less fortunate. My life hasn’t been perfect. I’m still waiting on some prayers to be answered but I do what I can. This year I can truly say I’m so fortunate and grateful to be around so many strong like minded women willing to do some good with their blessings. These are my tribe of sistas and I’m thankful for the support of each one of them. Without strength in numbers we are powerless. With it we can do amazing thing and this night was proof of it.
You don’t find the perfect relationship, you build one. When you create your own happily ever after you’ll stop comparing yours to theirs.
My marriage goals are not to be like Will and Jada, Beyoncé and Jay-Z or any other couples I admire but to have my version of happiness I know a marriage/partnership could bring if done correctly. Redd and I are about 10 months shy from saying I do after almost 15 years together. I know some people hear that number and would say finally. Well, me too! I was almost at my expiration date that if a promise of forever wasn’t around the corner I was taking my 3 kids and moving onward and upward, but God had other plans.
Shoutout to all my friends that have dealt with all my rants through pregnancy, through childbirth and through motherhood. At this point there’s no such thing as TMI anymore because you guys have listened to me spill the beans about everything under the sun. I mean EVERYTHING! I don’t know what I’d do without being able to tell y’all the specifics.
Do you ever feel like your struggling with work-life balance? You don’t have to be. I have 5 tips to help you balance your personal and work life. If your a working mom like me, maintaining a healthy work-life balance is crucial for your mental health and physical health. It helps prevent stress and burn out so you can connect with what matters the most to you, your family.
Wear your stripes, your lines with pride. At this point I feel like my stretch marks are apart of me. I’ve earned these stripes in birthing 3 beautiful babies and I except every single imperfection. I’m beautiful just the way I am and you are beautiful just the way you are, stretch marks, incision scars, little pouch, mommy rolls, sagging tits and all.
The one thing that you can’t get back is time. Once you mature and realize that life is to short to be miserable and unhappy, letting go becomes a way of life. All you have to do is stop making bullshit excuses to hold on to shit that’s weighing you down. You ever wonder why you see everyone around you getting blessed but not you? It’s often times because your blocking your own blessings by not letting go.
Many of us were not taught to let go. Yet, letting go is liberating. For some reason men tend to be scared to let down women and women just don’t like to be alone. You have to let go of relationships that are not for you, in order, to live a healthier life. Let go of all toxic people (family members included), jobs that hold you back, your own fear and the idea that you should expect anything from anyone other than God.
I work in the dental field as a dental assistant and I’m always surprised how many parents don’t realize how important it is to take care of your child’s baby teeth. Teeth in general are just as important as your other body parts. You want to take daily care of them just as you would your your liver or your heart.
To the females that don’t have kids yet. This post is for you. There’s so much to expect when your expecting. There’s so much to learn if your a new mom if you haven’t taken a child development class. People will warn you about all the crying, the sleepless nights and how expensive kids are but in real life the first year is all about survival. You have to be realistic and throw away all your expectations and do what works for your family.
On Saturday, October 5th, 2919 I attended the 10th annual Veuve Cliquot Polo Classic. I absolutely enjoyed this dope event. I enjoyed a day of being a Boujee milf with my extra’d ass friends. We sipped Veuve Cliquot champagne, ate fancy cheeses and mingled with the most stylish guys and dolls at Will Rodgers State Historic Park.
Polo matches are typically a drag to me but the perfect backdrop on a gorgeous day filled with lots of champagne, fashion and fun. I played life size board games, met fabulous people, took lots of pictures while the deejay played all the jams.
If your like me and never attended an event of this nature you definitely want to be prepared and know what to expect. So I’ve created a little guide and I hope this helps if you’re planning to attend next year.
I hosted a mommy meetup at Breakfast Bitch last Saturday with around 6 of my girls. I’ve been wanting to try this new spot for a while and I’m glad I did. The food was delicious, the slogans on the wall were litty and the vibe was mad cool. They played good music, the lines weren’t extremely long and the staff was super friendly and catered to all our needs.
This week on the internet I saw a post posing the question “Is travel a valid reason for kids to skip school?” and while reading through the comments I was surprised how many parents would not let their child miss a single day of school. I personally don’t have an issue with it unless they are falling behind academically.
Who else is constantly seeing pregnancy or birth announcements all up and down their timeline? Just about everyday a new baby is born or on its way. I just want to say Yayyyy to ALL the moms to be! I’m so excited for all you mother-to-be’s (whether your a first time mom or veteran mom expanding your family), Congrats!
Not only does pregnancy bring tons of hormonal changes but let be honest shit is never the same once you become a mother. Adapting to your new normal is definitely a process. 80% of moms tend to feel overwhelmed and can use your help even if they don’t want to admit it. If your not pregnant but apart of the village and excited, here’s how you can make moms life a little easier after she’s had her baby. Here are some ways you can help out.
Paying with cash will help you save money and with the money you save you can invest back into yourself. Whether that’s to take a class to develop your craft more, purchase more tools to grow your business, meet a personal financial goal, or save for a vacation. You’ll be surprised what you can achieve financially when you plan with a purpose, execute and put your money in areas that will bring you abundance.
“A budget is telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.”
On a quest to save money to fund my dream wedding I learned about the cash envelope system. The key of the envelope system is to budget your money using envelopes for different categories of your household expenses. It forces you to accurately budget your expenses every month and stop overspending.
I’m a huge birthday person. Like a huge birthday person. I love celebrating my birthday every year. In my head my birthday is a national holiday.
I dread getting older, but I love celebrating my birthday in some kind of grand way. It’s a Leo thing.
Last year, as my birthday was approaching I was getting ready to fuck it up per usual, while being big and of course pregnant. I had my heart set on a glitter theme party and I was going to show up looking like a big, sexy disco ball. It was gonna be a hot glitter mess of a good time.
I decided on a good food spot to eat because what does a pregnant lady absolutely enjoy other than food? Nothing. Then, I was going to make all my beautiful friends wear something shiny and sparkly so I could get a cute maternity photo shoot out of the deal.
I had the perfect dress and the perfect heels for the occasion and they are both still sitting in my closet waiting to be put to use because someone couldn’t wait to meet his mommy.
Teething is a normal part of a baby’s development when their baby teeth are in the process of erupting. It typically occurs from 6-24 months of age and trust me you will know.
During this time your child will most likely experience discomfort due to tender and swollen gums, become irritable, go through tons of bibs from drooling, and try to bite on any and everything to relieve the pain. Oh and lots of crying.
Teething is a stressful time for you and your baby as you struggle to find ways to relieve their pain but thanks to one mom named Tasia Blackwell (same name gang 💁🏾♀️ so I like her already) who invented Milksicles there’s a solution to this challenge.
I have the same 24 hours as anyone else and I maximize all of it or at least I try. When do I rest with 3 little ones you ask. Ha! What’s sleep when you have a newborn. If your a parent you definitely understand where I’m coming from. Even in mombie mode I’m taking care of business. Challenges arise all the time but guess what. I walk up to them confidently and say who gone stop me? Not you! And that my friends is how you take charge of your life. Be the boss of your life.
Take the time to research everything and I mean everything. From what type of business entity you want to whose your target audience. In other words, know everything you could possible need to know about your niche before starting.
2. Write a business plan.
Knowing what you want is half the battle. Writing down a clear and concise business plan will further more help you better achieve your business goals because it includes methods on how to attain your goals as well as gives you a timeframe. Be as detailed as possible about how you plan on making a profit with your business. It helps keep you on track.
3. Invest in your business.
Whether it’s saving money you make from your 9-5 or taking out a small business loan. It’s easy to start with little or no money but having more money will get things up and running faster.
4. Pick a location or a platform digital platform to sell your services or products.
Consider long term and short term advantages of all your options. You want to be prepared and make as little mistakes as possible because in business mistakes can cost you more money then your prepared to spend.
5. Choose a business structure.
The most common forms of business are the sole proprietorship, partnership, corporation, S corporation and Limited Liability Company (LLC). When picking which one is right for your business consider the cost, where you live, the possible liability you would have from someone using your product, and what advantages you’d gain from choosing that structure. Just be mindful that you want it to be a good fit and if it no longer is you can make changes when necessary.
6. Choose a business name.
Conduct a trademark search and come up with a catchy name that has meaning. I suggest something easy to spell and easy to remember. Sometimes the perfect name is your name if you want to be the brand. If your a credible person people will associate your name with your product and sales could skyrocket. You just never know. When in doubt test your possible name ideas out with others and get their feedback.
7. Get federal and state tax ID’s
You need to get an EIN number from the IRS in order to pay taxes. The application is easy and short process. It’s also free to do on the IRS website and they issue you a number immediately or you can hire a service and they can do it for you.
8. Get a business bank account.
Select a bank to handle your business account. It’s important to separate personal and business finances. Most businesses start out with business checking accounts. Then, next a savings that yields high interest rates. If you are considering a business credit card shop around and get the best rate. You should always know what your spending your money on, consider rewards, when introductory offers end and be sure your getting the best deal before settling.
9. Track your expenses.
There are apps that link to your bank account to help with this.
8. Do your taxes with a CPA.
Sometimes you got to know your limits. If your expertise is not taxes don’t use Turbo Tax. Please hire a professional because they can help you maximize the benefits of obtaining an LLC. Let them help you
9. Trademark logos, names and slogans.
Protect your creative properties. Don’t let anyone eat off you back. You worked hard to build your brand and be authentic get your credit so that if any copycats try and take your ideas and use it as there’s you can legally fight back because you have proof that it belongs to you.
Put your best foot forward get all your legal documentation together and start conducting yourself as a business. When in doubt consult a lawyer. I want you all to leverage your business and get rich. I hope that you continue to build wealth because we should normalize women being millionaires.
I see you checking IRS website to see when your stimulus check hits your account. Before you put anything in your Fashion Nova cart invest in yourself. 2020 taught us the world could shut down without a notice and we all be without jobs, so we need to always have more than one form of income. Don’t spend your money on materialistic things that hold no real value. Flip that money sis because sitting on it won’t get you more money and your going to spend it anyways. You might as well go broke investing in yourself with this free money from the government.
If your looking for a sign now is the time to change your money mindset.
It’s Day 7 of the New Year and the pandemic is still going on. Bummer. I think we all had hope on Jan. 1 that on that day something would magically change but it hasn’t. In fact, for those whose unemployment claims ran out it substantially got worst. Way to bring in the New Years with more uncertainty. It’s doesn’t look like we’re going to see outside or return to any kind of normalcy anytime soon.