I have the same 24 hours as anyone else and I maximize all of it or at least I try. When do I rest with 3 little ones you ask. Ha! What’s sleep when you have a newborn. If your a parent you definitely understand where I’m coming from. Even in mombie mode I’m taking care of business. Challenges arise all the time but guess what. I walk up to them confidently and say who gone stop me? Not you! And that my friends is how you take charge of your life. Be the boss of your life.
Here are some tips on how I manage my time and energy like a boss mom:
1. I wake up early every single day.
Normally, I love coffee to start my day but since I’m breastfeeding I’m really trying to avoid it. For months my newborn would not sleep. I swear every time we would be out and about he’d be wide awake.
So much that people would comment all the time he’s so alert for his age. LOL. Ummmm…. yeah that was the affects of the coffee I was drinking. It took me a minute to realize the correlation. So, now that I’ve stopped baby Kalvin is finally getting some sleep.
I’m still not but I’ve come to accept that I’ll be team no sleep for a long while. Since I can’t have coffee anymore I like to ease into my day by waking up early.
The earlier I start, the earlier I feel like my day ends. It allows me to take my time and accomplish all I need to do without being stressed for time because I have plenty of it.
2. Planning out my schedule is a huge factor in keeping me on track throughout my day.
With that said the more organized you are the more productive you can be. I utilize my calendars and planners to the fullest extent, as well as use siri to set my alarms and timers throughout the day. I’m probably a little OCD about this to. I plan out everything to the smallest detail if I care to.
I’m currently obsessed with bullet planning. Every Sunday I make a list of what I want to accomplish for the week and it feels pretty freaking good to cross shit out.
Some people think a week ahead. I take it a step further and think months ahead. For instance, I start buying Christmas gifts in October. I find that by doing this in December when everyone is last minute shopping I am able to chill and spend quality time with the family.
Managing my time allows me to make more memories than to do more things and that’s what important to me.
3. Autopay is God sent.
Mom brain is real. I forget so much. I get so distracted by everything, especially the baby. He’s so cute and I just want to play with him all day.
With my goal this year to be more disciplined and financially responsible so that I can soon purchase a home autopay has been my little not so secret. I have my life insurance, car insurance, cellphone, Kiddie Commute, student loan and cable all on autopay because I don’t have time for late fees. I need all my coins.
To be honest with y’all I still struggle with paying debt in full so it’s best they take their money off top. In the past I would rob Peter to pay Paul even though I would have both their money. It was something inside me that just couldn’t give it to them unless they forced me with a shut off notice. LOL. Obviously, I didn’t understand credit back then.
I was my own worst enemy when it came to finances but when you know better you do better. Since 2014 I’ve gotten a lot better. I’ve since changed my mindset when it comes to money but I could still tighten up a little bit more and save more. For now autopay holds me accountable and is my solution for not getting into more debt.
4. Kiddie Commute
Kiddie Commute is a somewhat kid Uber except your child knows their driver. I found them online last year when my daughter didn’t get into Primetime (an after school program).
While on maternity leave I enjoyed picking her up and taking her to school but when I had to start back to work I couldn’t find anyone reliable to help me with picking her up.
Luckily, in desperation I found Kiddie Commute. At first, I was super nervous because after all they were strangers. Also, I typically use resources from word of mouth and nobody I knew had heard of them but since I was in a bind I called and scheduled an appointment for my daughter and I to meet them in person. I figured I’d go off my vibe.
I met with the owner and a few of their drivers and was still a ball of nerves although they all had passed extensive background checks and had proper insurance. I ask a million concerned mom questions and they happily answered them all.
Kiddie Commute hold events throughout the year so that all the kids that use service can get familiar with all the drivers in case their driver has an emergency and needs a sub.
Most of the drivers are female and mother’s themselves who even drove with their kids in the car. So when they offered me a free trial I took them up on their offer.
The helicopter mom in me planned to ride with her but her dad thought that it wouldn’t really give us an accurate idea of if this service was for us and I eventually caved in.
I prepped my daughter for what was to come. How they’d pick her up at her schools office. They’d have a Kiddie Commute shirt on and even a Kiddie Commute sticker on their front window like Uber or Lyft. Beforehand they gave me the drivers name, color and make of vehicle. I asked her if she was scared and she was excited which really helped my anxiety.
I FaceTimed her the entire first ride and why am I lying more like until my daughter told me to stop because she likes talking to her driver. I was so impressed we subscribed to their 12 week service to begin with but I will definitely be using them this summer as well to help take a few cheer practices off my plate so that I can keep my stress and anxiety levels low.
5. It’s ok to say no.
At this point in my life if something doesn’t add value to my life I can’t entertain it. If it doesn’t benefit my family I’m above it. I only have time for the things I like and nothing else.
I have way to many kids for BS. Saying no has become essential for my life. I’ve freed up so much time so that I can be more productive.
I also know my limits and have created boundaries to keep my postpartum depression from being triggered.
I am only one person and I can’t be everywhere all the time. If my schedule permits I will come to your event and support but if it doesn’t I’ll send my well wishes.
I had to stop committing to so many things to support people who don’t always support me. So the same energy anyone gives me I’m giving back from 2019 and on.
It doesn’t mean I love them any less it just means I’m putting myself first because I love me first and foremost. Life will go on even if I’m not there.
I had to stop being so hard on myself for saying no. You can’t be at everyone’s beck and call. At the end of the day I am still a good person and I shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no especially when I mean it. Now it’s become my new favorite word.
6. Too blessed to be stressed.
I try and stay positive. I think that my Christian faith plays a huge factor in me being able to cope with all of life’s unexpected surprises.
You can plan and prepare and still shit happens and your like wtf?! I’ve learned that life is hard for everyone. We all face hardships and there will always be certain things we will never be able to change so I constantly pray. I pray and give thanks to God all day.
I know I’m a little rough around the edges but I still know that I am nothing without God and I am grateful for everything that he has given me.
I am grateful for my new found peace and sanity. My mind especially because sometimes we can take ourselves to some pretty dark places when we think nobody cares or understands.
I am grateful for a stable income and to be able to provide for my kids. I’m money motivated so even if I’m unhappy at work I’ll grit and bare it so I don’t jeopardize securing a bag for my kids.
At some point you have to make a decision to spend time focusing your energy on things that will make a positive impact on your life and your goals. You can choose to stress or you can choose to figure out plan B and not let distractions or the idea of perfectionism mess up your flow.
I choose to live my live full of gratitude and be happy with what I have until I have more of what makes me happy.
7. Schedule self-care.
It’s so important to feel good about yourself. When us moms are stressed the first thing we forget about is ourselves. We have to stop that. Self-care is important for our sanity and our motivation.
I’ve learned that if I don’t schedule self-care it won’t happen. Mommin’ is so serious that I have to find something that makes me smile everyday even if it’s just a nap.
You have to make self-care as part of your daily routine. Get your hair and nails done, hit the gym, read a book, see a therapist, go to brunch with your mom squad or get a massage. Whatever helps maintain your inner well being do lots and lots of that.
Don’t let go of your social life! It’s crucial that you take care of yourself so you don’t burn out. Pour back into yourself so that you can go out in the world and slay.
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The pace of life can be stressful. The life of a mother is about juggling lots of things. I manage my time so that I can enjoy my downtime with my family to the fullest.
I prioritize the things in my life by importance and take care of them first so that I can spend quality time with my family making memories that will last a lifetime.
Resentment is something that I’ve experienced in the past. I used to have no patience and always be in a rush to complete tasks and regretfully I missed special moments not because I wasn’t there but because mentally I wasn’t there.
I’m trying to be present for my family and friends by making the most of every opportunity I can with my time so that my free time is spent loving on the ones who mean the most to me.
When your in a rush you don’t have time to give love. In giving your kids and relationship time you show them not only are they loved but they are important.
You can always make more money but you can’t get more time. Life is short and you don’t get any second chances plan your schedule so you’re able to balance your work life and your family life and no side suffers due to anxiety and stress.
As a parent managing your time will help you feel less stressed.
- Wake up early to get a head start.
- Remember to have a little fun and take breaks for self-care.
- Go with the flow you can’t control everything so don’t try.
- Don’t fill your schedule up with things you don’t really want to do.
- Find services that help lighten your load.
- Bills that are essential for your life to function put on autopay.
- Stop stressing life’s to short.
Manage mom life, work life and everything in between using my tips.
As a mom your always going to be busy and my tips will help you work smarter and not harder without having to multitask.
What time management tips help you manage it all?