Happy birthday to me!

I thank God for blessing me to see 34.

I feel like my thirty’s have been good to me and every storm that I went through was good for me. It made me the confident resilient women you see today.

Let me explain… in the last 4 years I’ve grown so much.

I’ve learned to forgive myself, forgive others, lighten up, stop stressing, be kind, be supportive, stop shrinking myself down, stop comparing, stay in my lane and be happy with what I have while working to get what I want.

I was so hard on myself for so long for not being farther than what I thought I should be. I had to realize God’s timing is always the perfect timing.

At 33, I completed my family with baby #3, I launched Bossmommyblog.com, I got engaged and my two eldest promoted to middle school and high school.

I am happy, loved and fulfilled for the first time ever.

With that being said I knew I could pray and have all the faith in the world but I had to kick it up a notch and stop sitting on my potential. I was fearful that I’d fail, that I’d embarrass myself and that others may not connect with me when I first toyed with starting Bossmommyblog.com but I did it scared. I put myself out there and I just did it.

I still have so much work to put in but the response that I’ve gotten in the small amount of time since I’ve started let’s me know so many people can relate and are rooting for me the same way I’m rooting for all my queens out there.

There are so many unfulfilled moms out there and and I just want to help them find their way but showing them how I do it. Be on the look out for more posts on motherhood and eventually vlogs or a podcast.

I’m ready and open to collaborating and helping as many struggling moms as I can. I’m trying to get my brand out there so I can make money and give back to organizations that help single mother’s.

I feel like having a partner lessens the load of a mother’s work and single mother’s have the greatest need for help and encouragement because it’s hard doing everything by alone. It’s physically and mentally draining carrying the load by yourself. They are some of the strongest individuals to take on parenthood by themselves and persevere through all of life’s uncertainty and not give up.

If you know of any non profit organizations that teach self esteem, empowerment, finances or give single mother’s help with resources that can help them stay stable for their kids let me know. I’d love to work with them.

It took me so long to get back to me after having kids and if I can help anyone like me who went through depression, doubt and loosing their drive and passion after they’ve had babies my purpose has been fulfilled.

I want every woman to live their greatest, grandest vision of their lives because if you can believe it you can achieve it. You can have it all! You can secure your peace and be in your bag at the same dam time.

More women need to boss up, glow up and feel empowered to show up without excuses and fulfill their wildest dreams with kids in tow. I’ll keep saying it until you read it and believe it, them babies deserve a mother they can brag about.

I believe when you trust your instincts as a women, know what you want and what’s good for you you’ll be more picky with who and what you allow in your universe. It takes a long time to rebuild your little world after having children so protect your peace. Sometimes that means doing things alone and being your own cheerleader although we’d all like help sometimes we can only depend on ourselves.

I’m all about girl power and always preach that you need to figure out who you are and know your worth because there will always be a hater trying to shrink you down because they can’t handle how big your dreams are but fuck em! Fuck with yourself heavy especially if no one else does.

The hardest pill I had to swallow was when I realized at one point I was my own worst enemy. I talked myself out of doing so many things but not this year I chose to keep fighting even when I didn’t feel up to it.

I’m a living testimony that you can overcome anything.

I was once a single mom, a welfare recipient, jobless, broke, bitter, depressed and overwhelmed with life. I didn’t think I could make it through until I decided to be strong, keep my head up, cut out toxic people from my life, stop doubting myself, left every negative thought in the past and moved forward in life determined to never feel that way again by leading with my best self. 

I grew to love myself and value my time, my love and my purpose.

All I really had to do was put in the hard work and make the sacrifices that most people aren’t willing to do and it changed my life. So if your reading this You just have to be intentional and patient. Everything eventually falls into place just do you boo.

Today, I’m taking control of my narrative and writing my happy ending. I can’t change my beginning but there are to many possibilities in life for me to stay where I’m at.

The sky is just the beginning because I feel like I’m just getting started fixing my crown and becoming the person I should have been along time ago.

I’m flaunting my new glow and it looks good on me honey. So shoutout to myself for not looking like everything I’ve been through.

My heart is so full as I reflect on my 33 years but especially the last 15. I was 19 when I became a mother. I was only a teenager but made the decision that everyday I have a chance at life I promise to my kids that I will continue to stand tall because of them and for them.

This beautiful journey with them by my side has given me strength and guidance when I was lost and every tear I shed was never in vain because in the end we made it here, but this isn’t where it ends. My story is still being written.

I’m stepping into my 34th year more driven and more determined to hustle harder and love even harder. My grind is personal. I refuse to go back to the old me who doubted herself or my old life where I was unstable now that I’ve gotten a taste of the good life nothing tastes sweeter than being unapologetically me and being able to show my babies that if mommy can they most certainly can.

I look forward to new doors and new opportunities in this new year.

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