Month: May 2020

Just A Friendly Reminder Stop Killing Unarmed Black People

Why I can’t breathe.

I’m still waiting for America to be great. It seems like every time we take one step forward we take 3 steps back. Being Black in America is sad and exhausting. I can’t even breathe. We are the only race that will support every other race but we are never protected. All our civil liberties come with conditions. We have to think twice about walking at night with a hoodie on and even taking a normal jog in our neighborhood can be a risk. In 2020, being black af is still a crime. We are still walking targets.

I’m a mother of 2 black boys who will grow up to be two Black men. It’s sad that I have to even insert that because I feel like I shouldn’t have to state the obvious. Yet I do because I know the difference and they will soon know too. Truth is being a Black man is traumatizing and I have to prepare them for that. How many white moms can say they have to prepare their kids for possible police brutality, modern day lynching, and senseless gun violence? I’ll wait.

Each culture has it’s own set of trauma that nobody truly understand but them. I get it but what I don’t get is when other races see injustices and they remain silent. They become part of the problem. At the end of the day right is right and wrong is wrong. I can’t just sit there and let people treat other human beings wrong. I have to much empathy in me to turn a blind eye, to not speak out or reach out. My first reaction is to help. I’ll never understand how some merely watch and record.

I find myself wondering why the hell Black people are expected to be the bigger person each and every time there is a conflict? I don’t always want to. I’m demanding my respect from now on because I deserve it in the same way other races can. Black people have feelings too. We want to express ourselves. We want to barbecue at the park. Sell water to the thirsty. Not have our house raided when we have done absolutely nothing. We would love to be prosecuted by the dew process of the law and not corrupt cops or over eager vigilantes. Or better yet when we say we can’t breathe be believed. I mean dam why is that to much to ask for. Black lives need to matter.

How is it that when a Black person is murdered wrongfully and all evidence points to foul play the verdict 9 times out of 10 is not guilty? Then you get people like Mike Vick who got more time than all the police officers who have killed 493 unarmed Black men for killing a dog. I need some one to make that make sense because I can’t. How is a dogs life more precious than the Black man? That’s how undervalued they are and I’m sick of it.

I’m sick of hearing disgusting stories of people robbed of their loved ones way to soon. I’m tired of it hitting home. I’m over being expected to get over it because I’m not. As of today we are all tired of being oppressed. We are not taking injustice anymore. We our fighting for a change. Violence or not I’m here for it since they killing us anyways.

If only all the Karen’s of the world would stay out of people’s business and move along with their day without being assholes. I just recently experienced a white male following me to my house to question me about my toddlers trash. The nerve of this man to see me in distress carrying two hands full of groceries and trying to keep my eye on my toddler from running in the parking lots full of cars. As I’m struggling with all my bags because I didn’t want to make two trips he approaches me and asked me if I was going to pick up my child’s trash instead of being concerned for my 1 year who could of got hit by a car.

I will never understand why he felt the need to harass me and proceed to tell me I was ghetto because I said no. I didn’t feel like that trash was important at that time. My Black child’s safety was my top priority but he could give two shits though. He’d rather be arrogant and ignorant. He didn’t try to empathize with me. He didn’t attempt to help me. Instead, he startled me and decided to go off on me and rattle on about my life because I didn’t care about what he cared about at that exact moment.

He doesn’t know my life. I never been raised in the ghetto ever. He just made an assumption to fit his narrative and I think it’s fucked up that he felt he could talk to me in that manner because I’m a Black women and I was alone. Mind you it was me and my two youngest kids. I raised my voice and said good day sir, God bless you but what if I would have met him with aggression? He for sure would have played the victim even though he came over to me. Meanwhile, if my son dropping his soda as his 11 year old sister picked him up to protect him from harms way bothered him so bad he could have picked up the cup his dam self. He saw me with my hands full carrying tons of groceries but he didn’t think twice about confronting me. Black people encounter these types all the the time. It’s so exhausting.

The worst part about the situation is he didn’t see nothing wrong in any of his actions. He was so fixated on being right that he didn’t care that he scared me and my children, violated my space and disrespected me for no reason. He was on a power trip. He obviously felt like I was beneath him and he tried to make me feel less than but what he didn’t expect was my courage. I stood up to him. He’s a human being like I’m a human being. He’s no better or no different and I’m not going to be afraid to put anyone in their place ever. They gone learn today, the day after, and the day after that.

I’m very proud to be Black. I love all my blackness and my dope Black ancestors that came before me. I don’t need Becky to see that my hair is beautiful in it’s natural state. I never needed validation. I was taught by a beautiful Black queen to love myself. I’m training up my sons to carry themselves as kings and my daughter to be a queen in training. I teach them to be kind and tell them everyday they are special. I just want all the peace in the world and I pray that all the warriors on the front line in the battle for equality fight on. I’m making phone calls daily and posting on all my platforms so I can make a difference.

Colin Kapernick lost his whole career for peacefully protesting. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was murdered for his peaceful activism. It feels like our sins have greater consequences. No sin is different, we all sin and long as you repent to God you shall be forgiven. I’m tired of my people suffering at the hand of our oppressors that manipulate the laws as they see fit. I want justice, equality and peace. I want to be able to live this America dream I hear about so much. In present day there is still White America. They get to be heard. Blacks have a voice but we are rarely taken serious I hate to say it but it seems like we have to be loud with our protest and riot or loot in reaction to the fact that unarmed Blacks keep getting killed to get our pain acknowledged.

“Riot is the language of the unheard.”-Dr.Martin Luther King, Jr.

It makes me infuriated that white people don’t understand that systematically they have white privilege and because of it they don’t have the same type of fears I face as a Black mom when I send my children out into this racist world. We come along way but we still have lots of work to do because the world still isn’t fair for Black people. This whole country can burn down for all I care if I have to continue to be free-ish.

I’m tired of my children, my beautiful Black babies being labeled and prejudged. I hate that the images of my Black brothers and sisters always is a negative narrative. I feel as if no matter how much good we do we are the most hated community. The media only shines light on the bad. When the shit hits the fan here comes the media. We’ve been angry but now that people are protesting and looting now they wanna focus on that instead they need to understand why we got to where we are. America is America because we built it for free. Let that sink in. At this point it’s time for the rest of the world to fight and mourn with us if they want it to stop.

I refuse to accept this treatment. I am not numb to senseless killings in my community. It has become normal but it’s not right. It still is a fresh wound that never heals. I cry every time I hear the names of Trayvon Martin, Sandra Bland. Philando Castile and now George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmad Arbery. I can and will not move on after a trial of another shady cop because at the end of the day another one of us is dead. The killer ends up loosing his job but I don’t see justice in that. I want to see convictions!

We’re in a got dam pandemic and it’s still happening. We’re fighting back because we have to. Our Black lives depend on it. We have to take action until people are held responsible. For anyone valuing buildings over people your racism is showing. For anyone silent during these pivotal times just know that your silence speaks volumes. To all my non Blacks down for the cause and are mourning and actively fighting to end racism with us we appreciate you.

If your a mom and your not Black what are you doing to make sure that your children don’t shoot unarmed Blacks or don’t make false police reports? I’m curious.

#Peaceafterrevolution

#Freeish

#Blacklivesmatter

#Iamwithyou

#Nojusticenopeace

Amazon Prime For Only $5.99 A Month!

If you receive SNAP or Medicaid benefits you qualify for Amazon Prime for only $5.99! Typically the subscription is around $15 a month so this is a huge savings for the long lists of benefits you receive.

The perks you get with Amazon Prime is simply incredible. Get access to free fast 2-day shipping (more like one day shipping though), thousands of movies and ad free music. So basically on top of getting great deals all your home essentials you get tons of other free things to smile about. Amazon sure does work hard to deliver smiles.

I use Amazon a lot. Anything you can think of your sure to find it on Amazon’s site. I personally love Amazon especially for business essentials. My number one goal with my lash business is to have good customer service and that means being reliable and staying stocked up with inventory. Amazon makes my life so much easier because I’m able to order when I’m low and receive my goods often times the very next day if I order before 3 PM. The fact that delivery is so fast and convenient is worth your wild. Oh and their free returns policy makes them brilliant.

I also think it’s pretty cool that if you have Alexa or any compatible device similar to Alexa that you can ask it what are the deals for the day and she’ll actual tell you. She’ll give you a long list of random deals available and she’ll even take it a step farther by asking you if you want to order that item right then and there. How convenient to be able access deals without have to scroll the actual website. Very innovative.

If your a new mom one thing you’ll love about Amazon Prime is that if you set up your baby registry with Amazon you get an extra 15% off baby items still remaining on your registry. That means whatever nobody got you off your registry list when you decided to purchase the items yourself you’ll get them for a discounted price. We all know that babies need everything so this perk alone pays for the subscription with its savings. Also, if there’s something you can’t find on Amazon there is a universal registry button that allows you to add items from other sites.

30 Baby Priducts I Won’t Live Without And You Shouldn’t Either

A friend was just telling me the more people buy stuff your registry Amazon will actually start sending you gift cards. Plus you have 365 days to return any gifts. This is bomb for busy and forgetful people like me who need more than 30 days sometimes to remember to return something. I call this incredible customer service. They absolutely get us. They’ve figured out what we need and have made the shopping experience stress free. I no longer have to go in a store and I can still get all the products I need without having to wait to long or worry about if I made a mistake because I can easily return it with a quickness.

Amazon has gotten even better they now offer Amazon Fresh, a grocery delivery service that delivers within 2 hours after purchasing. As a prime member you get exclusive discounts on Whole Foods. It even includes free shipping if you spend at least $35. If you have an Amazon Prime VISA you get %5 cash back.

Sign up now for a free 30 day trial and see if the prime membership is worth it. All you need is a valid credit card. You can cancel at any moment. To cancel make sure “auto renew is turned off”.

You want to know more? Check out Amazon Prime: 21 Benefits Members Get

#AmazonPrime

#Perks

#Babyregistry

#Businessessentials

My Quarantine Wedding

With all the unfortunate things going on in the world today I’m still happy. I choose to focus on the positive. Instead I want to remember how lucky I am. The world is shut down but our love continues on. We’ve faced a lot of adversity in our relationship who would have thought the Coronavirus would be another one of them.

Imagine planning this huge wedding and then a pandemic strikes. My heart goes out to every bride in my same position right now. It feels like someone just rained on your fucking parade because they kinda did. You’ve proposed to your bridesmaids you even had your engagement party and right before you were set to send out save the dates you hold back because what if you have planned your day to a tee with all the bells and whistles for nothing. For coronavirus to be impacting your wedding due to social distancing and social gathering restrictions which may cause you to either cancel or postpone.

In my case, after I’ve pressed the line on a few people who had felt the need to comment on how big I wanted my wedding to be because they felt like it was a waste of money. Now I’ll never understand why people get into other people’s finances but to each their own. Like how is me spending MY money on MY wedding any of anyone else concern (MY WEDDING, MY WAY). It seems like a no brainer that if it’s not your business it’s not your problem but I learned early on in the wedding planning process other people most definitely have no comprehension of mind the business that pays you. I had to tell a few people not so nicely that I deserve to have the best wedding day ever and if they are worried about the cost instead of my happiness they definitely could help cut costs by not attending-and I meant that. Had it all been in vain? LOL.

Just recently I made my mind up I’m keeping my wedding date. I was unmotivated to plan during this pandemic because I didn’t want to get my hopes up on my big dream wedding but I’ve decided the Covid is not stopping nothing, especially my marriage. I plan to still be a 2020 bride no matter what. I saw a fly ass wedding in New York on Instagram last week and we decided that we don’t want to wait for the corona to be over to be married.

Even if no one could be in attendance I’d still choose love, sex & stability foreva with my hubby to be today, tomorrow or any day of the week for that matter. The dress code may be a little different and I might have to get more creative but we gone move full steam ahead.

My wedding day might look a lot different than I planned but I will cherish it forever. If your a bride to be during quarantine check out @elainewelteroth and her fabulous stoop wedding. #Inspired

I will have a wedding on my wedding date during this pandemic even if it’s only just us. We deserve it. I can postpone my wedding reception to 2021 if I have to but I will not cancel my wedding. Love will win this time. In the midst of the unknown we always know we have each other and despite this absolutely heartbreaking moment for my fairytale wedding. The emotional stress I felt with every CDC update on gathering restrictions and traveling. Getting frustrated is an understatement. I’ve cried. I’ve grieved. Now that I released my anger I can embrace the endless wonderful possibilities.

All my 2020 brides I know you felt that!

If we’re still social distancing we will respect that because ultimately we love our family and want them all to be safe but if the coast is clear ya’ll already know we are partying accordingly. It will be lit af. Shit, we waited over a decade for this moment to align together as one and be absolutely sure(with no doubts) this is what we want. No state of crisis could convince us otherwise. It’s us until death do us part.

We can’t wait to celebrate for all the ups and downs we faced, mountains we climbed together, fears we’ve conquered, communication we mastered, trust we’ve build, and bond that remains unbreakable after everything we went through that was meant to break us and most importantly the principle in which we base our whole entire lives on FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING and God before all of that. 2020 will still be our biggest adventure. Periodt.

Cookies by @knotandbird

I welcome change but I rebuke negativity. I refuse to let Covid 19 steal our joyous day. My day my be WAY way different than how I originally planned but it will still be how I imagined, beautiful and perfect because the love we have for each other is real. It’s unconditionally and can’t be controlled. Fuck Corona! Love wins again…

If your a bride right now feel free to reach out to me. I’d love to hear from you.

#Maskon

#Myquarantinewedding

#Lovewins

#Relationshipgoals

#Lovegoals

#2020bridetobe

Spoil Mom With These Great Gifts On Mother’s Day

This year due to social distancing we will have to appreciate the moms in our lives from the comforts of our homes.

Every mother deserves to be spoiled and since the world hasn’t opened up yet I’ve been doing a lot of online shopping. While shopping online for my favorite moms I found some really cool gifts that I thought I’d share in case you still have no clue what to get this year. Here are some ideas.

Dose of Roses

These long lasting rose bouquets are sure to bring a smile to moms face.

Chic Geeks

Coordinate her MacBook, IPad, and iPhone. Chic Geeks has the cutest case covers that will make mom smile. You can pick from faux crocodile, animal print or glitter.

Lacecharm

Unique sneaker accessories from lace and charm will spice up any shoe. Perfect for a stylish mom.

Color Street

Since nail shops are closed and most women are missing their bi-weekly manicures pamper month with Color Street. It’s an easy to apply nail polish strip that creates the nail shop mani look at home. You can choose from an array of different shades and combos. It’s been the best pick me up during quarantine time.

Kerig

For my coffee loving mommas this is a great gift. She’ll no longer have to wait in line at Starbucks she can grab a cup of joe from the kitchen. I asked for this Kerig for Mother’s Day because I like the color. It’s going to fit perfectly in my kitchen since I’m obsessed with the mint and teal vines right now but it’s also slim enough to be portable so I may consider taking it to work.

Uniform Advantage

Take advantage of all the nurse’s week sales. Treat the healthcare hero in your life to new comfy scrubs from Uniform Advantage. As essential workers during this Covid 19 pandemic they deserve it.

Premadonna Seasoning

While mom has more time to cook this is the prefect addition to her spice cabinet. Premadonna’s seasoning blends will spice up any meal.

3D Personalized Name Cable

Personalize her USB cord My Heart Gift. This gift is unique and fun. Who doesn’t love a personalized gift? Plus, when everyone has an iPhone these days the kids won’t be able to say it’s theirs and neither will her coworkers. Moms got to have at least one thing for herself. She’ll love this.

Girl, Stop Apologizing

This book is a great read for my book lovers who are ready to live their best life once this quarantine is lifted. Author, Rachel Hollis, gives a blunt account on how she became successful by deciding to first believe in herself. We often times could use help finding and trusting our inner voice. If you know someone struggling with fears gift them this book. It’s time for you or them to live to your fullest potential.

Scent Bird

The first month of subscription to designer fragrance is $11.21. Give mom the amazing gift to try or switch up her perfume scent whenever she wants. Scent Bird has a large selection over 500 great quality perfumes to choose from to customize your monthly order and if ever you feel like you’ve reached your limit or have found your signature scent you can skip or cancel your subscription at anytime.

Super Mom Custom Gift Wrap

This gift wrap is hilarious. It’s a super cool way to express your thanks for mom by plastering her face on some gift wrap paper. I think it just adds a special touch to any gift.

Nobody has your back like your momma so love on her while she’s still here. Spoil her this Mother’s Day.

Call your mom and tell her to lookout for something fabulous coming in the mail!

#Momsrule

#MothersDay

#Honorthymother

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