To the females that don’t have kids yet. This post is for you. There’s so much to expect when your expecting. There’s so much to learn if your a new mom if you haven’t taken a child development class. People will warn you about all the crying, the sleepless nights and how expensive kids are but in real life the first year is all about survival. You have to be realistic and throw away all your expectations and do what works for your family.
Category: Mom Rants
Many people will tell you that it’s stupid to shell out all this money for a one year olds first birthday party that they won’t even remember and if your like me you won’t listen. Listen, it’s your child and if you want to make a big ordeal about them turning one do it.
Throw the party!
There’s no party like your child’s first birthday party. You can’t get that memory back so pick a venue, pick a date and send out invites right away.
I’m a huge birthday person. Like a huge birthday person. I love celebrating my birthday every year. In my head my birthday is a national holiday.
I dread getting older, but I love celebrating my birthday in some kind of grand way. It’s a Leo thing.
Last year, as my birthday was approaching I was getting ready to fuck it up per usual, while being big and of course pregnant. I had my heart set on a glitter theme party and I was going to show up looking like a big, sexy disco ball. It was gonna be a hot glitter mess of a good time.
I decided on a good food spot to eat because what does a pregnant lady absolutely enjoy other than food? Nothing. Then, I was going to make all my beautiful friends wear something shiny and sparkly so I could get a cute maternity photo shoot out of the deal.
I had the perfect dress and the perfect heels for the occasion and they are both still sitting in my closet waiting to be put to use because someone couldn’t wait to meet his mommy.
I want to take the time to extend my gratitude for not only my mom but for all the moms around the world. Mothers have the hardest job in the world but never clock in, and never get paid. The only reward that we receive is that we get little human best friends to walk beside us for the rest of our journey in life.
God really handpicked the best mom for me.
Now that I’m older I reflect back on my own childhood and I’m amazed how my mother got through motherhood alone as a single parent. She did a good dam job. I know you will read this mom (because you are my biggest cheerleader and are always rooting for me) so I just want to say I LOVE YOU from the bottom of my heart.
My life is cray cray. I don’t know what the hell was I thinking but just when things were starting to make sense I decided to have another baby. My youngest was 10 years old and I was literally 8 years away from freedom and I decided that I wasn’t fulfilled enough and started all over again or at least that’s my version of the story, and I’m sticking to it (because in actuality my third pregnancy was not planned).
My other two kids are so independent and mature, and to go from raising your kids up to where you barely have to parent them at all to having a little human being who needs you 24/7 is a serious adjustment. I’d be lying if I said it was the best decision of my life and it didn’t complicate things. The real is, shit just got real but I have no regrets. They say God doesn’t make any mistakes and I feel truly blessed now but my growing little family is by no means easy to balance. I may make being a mom of three look easy but trust me when I tell you mommin’ ain’t easy.